Ralph is three

Happy birthday Ralph!

Three cycles around the sun and you continue growing before our eyes into such a beautiful soul every single day.

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10th January 2016

Today, my darling Ralph, you insisted on waking me super early in the morning by whispering “wake up now mummy” continuously in my face.  I love that you are so persistent and don’t give up even if you do have to drag me out of bed by my ankles…..

We woke up to an unusual grey summers day here in Perth but it was a nice break to take a morning walk along the beach without melting at 7:30 in the morning, which turns out is also the same time and place that all of Perth’s lycra wearing fitness addicts do their daily exercise. I happened to be the one counting all the ships/ surfers/ dogs at the top of my voice….

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my mama mantra

its fair to say i have had zilch time for myself during March and i dread to think, but probably for the rest of April too. i struggle at the best of times to focus on me, but in-between Ralph, pre-service teacher assignments, lectures, school visits, readings (there is lots and lots and lots of readings to be done!) and hosting a bloody suspected parasite in my intestine I’ve really struggled to keep my equilibrium/sanity in check, thus Big D has officially renamed me ‘cranky pants.’

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Happy second birthday Ralph

We've had such a beautiful whirlwind of birthday celebrations over the weekend, that it was an awesome treat to get to lay down on the grass under the sun during our animal spotting at the zoo today whilst Ralph had a wee nap and Big D and I let out a huge sigh of relief that we made it to year two pretty much unscathed! Well kind of!

^^^such a rare moment I had to get a snap of us relaxing together!^^^

Two years man, where have you gone and what have you done with our little baby?! Ralph is so, so long I swear he will be taller than me before he reaches 10! But no matter how tall you will end up I always want you to know that I love you more and more each day. Infact I never knew I could love someone as much as you and am so incredibly greatful what a special gift you are to us both, even including those trying and difficult days where the tears are mainly mine! (mamas reading this are probably nodding in unison here!)

^^^i was way more impressed with the sparkler candle than the birthday boy^^^

Each and every day you teach me to be more patient, more caring, more selfless than I ever thought could be humanly possible. Happy birthday to our darling dude. We hope you had the best birthday!

We love you!

 

 

 

 

 

 

The tale of a screaming toddler

I'd kinda forgotten about the flies that come hand in hand with the start of Summery weather in Perth. You, along with everyone else in WA is constantly doing this wafty hand thing across your face to stop the suckers from invading your mouth, so you soon remember how annoying it can get! Plus you begin to think a hat with those dangly corks is a really GREAT idea…..

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Reality check: depression, sleep deprivation and a frustrated toddler

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I love sharing all the fun moments that happen in our little world via my blog.  All those happy smiley days captured forever for the whole world to see. But sometimes life just isn’t all that rosy and i need to tell you about those times too. Because they happen. And I don’t want to come across as one of those annoying ‘everything is always so bloody perfect’ people. Believe me they exist. I have met them…..

I’m typing this not because i want sympathy nor am i having a moan about how hard parenting can be (even though it ruddy well is) but i just want to let those mamas (and papas) out there who are having one of those days/weeks/ months that its cool. You’ve got this, everything is going to be a-okay.  Eventually.

My breaking point happened around a few weeks ago in the middle of a packed cafe full of mamas getting their morning  caffeine hit.  All you need to know was that there were tears. Lots of tears.  and maybe a little snot. (all mine) and plenty of sympathy glances (theirs).

If you’ve been following this blog for sometime you will know how crap of a sleeper Ralph is.  But it was getting worse. he would wake too many times to remember not settling anywhere (not even in the previously guaranteed big bed).  he was tired all the time and so was I. he would cling to me all day like his little life depended on it and would be so grizzly and upset for the majority of the day not letting me out of his sight AT ALL. wherever he went i would have to go.  I love the fact i’m his bestest friend in the whole world but sometimes you just need a moment you know? i was stressed, Ralph was stressed, i was stressed because he was stressed, a huge downward spiral…. you get the picture!

We had a situation on our hands and i had no idea what to do.  (Even the trusted having a LARGE glass of wine after Ralph’s bedtime and hoping that the next day would be better wasn’t working any more)

What had I been doing so wrong to make my little chap so utterly sad? I was on the brink of depression but after a long chat  about my mental health it looks like I just need a little bit more support now and again (something I had clearly overlooked when moving the furthest away possible from everyone I knew and loved)

And as for Ralph, well, it turns out after having a parenting consultation with a professional (and not trying to self diagnose with every thing I came across thanks to Google) that he is just a totally ‘with it’ little guy. a very tired little guy who’s just working a heck of a lot of stuff out and needs his mama to be there because it’s a crazy confusing world in which we are living in and I think I kinda forgot the simple stuff somewhere along the way.

I hated the way I always blamed Ralph’s demanding behaviour on him being tired but 99% of the time it seems to be answer. I’ve been scooping him up and winding him down around every 4 hours  whether it be with a  book for a 10 minute chill or preparing him for his actual nap time for the past week and very slowly I’m seeing little positive changes.  I really think we may be onto something…..

 

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